One often finds people asking whether one should practice as a solitary or as
part of a coven. Likewise you hear many opinions on why one way or the other is right
or wrong. I contend that there is no one right or wrong way to practice, only what
is right for the individual in question.
There are a number of reasons why
someone might chose to practice as a solitary instead of with a group. First off
there may not be a group that they are aware of in their area. Or they may not have
found a group with whom they feel comfortable working
On the one hand, they
may just prefer working as a solitary. There are some advantages to this method..you
can hold ritual when and where you wish, you can make it as structured or spontaneous
as you feel appropriate, you can deal with your issues and needs as you find necessary,
you answer to no one but the Goddess and yourself. I know a lot of solitaries who
would not trade this freedom of practice for any coven in the world. Heck, even those
of us who practice in covens still hold our own solitary rituals to mark the cycle
of our daily lives.
On the other hand, there are a bunch of folks out there
who like the company of others of like mind, who feel the need for the structure
of a group, or who want training that they cannot find in books or in nature. For
them, a coven may be the answer. But joining a coven should never be undertaken without
some careful forethought and some real research on the group you are considering
joining. It pays to learn a bit about the different traditions to find out what you
would be most comfortable with. And you have to be really comfortable with the people
in the one you chose. Remember that in circle you will drop all your shields and
become truly open with you covenmates. That is why the passwords "Perfect Love
and Perfect Trust" are so important in a coven setting. Ideally a coven functions
somewhat like a family of choice with the members developing close and enduring ties
of caring and support. Often this carries over into everyday life with coveners spending
much of their time in each other's company. In some ways it is like living as our
ancestors did in a clan functioning around a way of living and a living religion.
A poorly chosen coven, one with problems with personality conflicts, ethical issues,
etc. can be far, far worse than practicing as a solitary. So always look closely
at a group for awhile before you commit to joining them.
In short, there
is no right or wrong way to be a Witch..you can be one all by yourself...or you can
be one with a group. It just depends on you and how you find you best meet your own
spiritual needs.